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Nina and Her Saga For THE Shoes Part 1/新菜とハイヒール 第一戦

So, don’t judge.  I know the studies. I am fully aware of the social backlash and contempt concept of putting a young girl in high heels AND the possible physical effects of wearing them at a very young age.   I said NO.  I provided other options.  She didn’t budge.  This wasn’t just another, “I want.” It was more than that and I caved.  I respected her efforts, determination and I wanted her to know that I’ve got her back. So here’s the story.

A year ago, we passed by a terribly glitzy glittery store.  I usually walk right by them and don’t even look back.  Nina (four, at this time) stopped dead in her tracks and said,

 

“I want those shoes.”

I turned to see a pair of glittery wedges, around one inch high, with additional shiny jewels….in her size.

First reaction: “I want?”

Nina: “May I have those shoes please”(add lip quiver)

Me: “No, those aren’t really appropriate for you. ”

Nina: “But I really really want high shoes. You wear them all the time”

Me: “They’re not good for girls your age.  Your can hurt your ankles, (add whatever other reasons here).  You know, mommy didn’t really get to wear high heels until I could buy my own”

Nina: “How did you have your own money”

Me: “You work for your money”

Nina: “Can I do that?”

Me: “Sure, we can start a chore chart”

Nina: “OK, then I can put money in my Frozen wallet”

Me: “Yes, you will need to save a lot though ….those shoes are pretty expensive”

Seriously, they were 60 bucks.  Which I thought was a bit much for shoes that looked shiny but really, a child would not be able to walk around much in.

I thought our conversation ended there and we went home.  I was patting myself on the back about how a potential tantrum was avoided….Well….this was a beginning of a looong saga to her perfect shoes.

もう2年前の話になるのだけど。ある日、近所のモールで、ピッカピカのキッラキラの、デコ携帯の親玉バージョンみたいなお店の前を通った。新菜の足(当時4歳)の足がピタッと止まった。

あれ、欲しい。

彼女の指さした先にはやはりピッカピカの子供サイズのハイヒールが。

私:「欲しい?」

新菜「あの靴、買ってください」プルプル。

私 げ、暴れだす兆しありだ。「だめ、あれは新菜には早すぎるよ、色んな意味で(足首とか、子供にヒールはなんとか…理由をごにょごにょ)」

新菜「何で?ママいつもハイヒールでしょ。すごーく欲しいの」

私「まだ早いって、それにママだって、ハイヒール履くようになったのは、自分のお金で買えるようになってからよ。」

新菜「自分の、ってどうすればいいの?」

私「お仕事だね。」

新菜「新菜もやる」

私「お手伝い表でもつくるか。おうち帰ってからね。」

新菜「うん、新菜、Frozenのお財布持ってるから、そこに入れるね。」

私「いいんじゃない、でもあの靴結構お高いから大変かもね」

ちらっと見たら、60ドル、いや、あのちゃっちいコッテコテの靴、しかも絶対子供が歩けないような靴にしちゃ、お高いでしょ。まーいっか、どうにか大暴れの事態だけは避けられた~。良かった。と思いながら家に帰る。実は、私はこの会話の事を数日前まで忘れてたのだ。