新菜、長女。実良、次女。 Nina Grows Up and Mila….

すいません、妊娠なめてました。前回二人とも凄く楽な妊娠生活で、悪阻ともあまり縁がなく、うへへ~、楽勝、とか思っていたけどそうはいかず。

悪阻も辛かった、それだけでなくて今回は、6か月にて、お腹はバスケットボール。おまけに足のむくみ、初体験。むくみってイタイのね。知らなかった。

のそのそ ぺたぺた 肥満ペンギンか、二足歩行ハムスターといべきか。これ、まだ5か月半あるの?あれ?

というわけで、動けない(我慢力のない)母ちゃんのため、新菜ががんばっております。

お皿洗いを自主的にやってくれてたり、ミラを迎え行くと言ってくれたり、お片付けもするし、母、毎日感動。

「ママの栄養もエネルギーも、赤ちゃんが今全部食べちゃってるから、新菜がやってあげる。ママ、座ってていいよ」

とな。

うわあああああああ、ママ、涙でるじゃないか。やめてええええ。

と、思っていたら、昨日、おやすみ言った後、一人でしくしくベッドでうるんでいる新菜発見。

「どうしたの、何で泣いてるの?」

「新菜お手伝いしてるのに、ミラちゃんはごはんも残したし、何もしてない」

恐らく、この後に、「何もしなくても怒られてない」 が来る...

う...お皿洗いの時も、丁度終わってニコニコしてる新菜のところに横から自分の使ったボウル放り込んで泣かせてたしな。

ミラ姫、最低限の事だけやって、後はあそんでるのだ。しかも丁度目に入りにくい場所で。

聡い次女。

真面目な長女。

ああ、幼稚園児なのにもう出てる、性質。

とりあえずハグしていい子いい子して寝かせるけども、どうするか。新菜にはごほうび多めにしてるものの、横からかわいく、

「姉姉、少しちょうだい?」(極上スマイル)

と、ねだり倒してるしな。そこは無言で睨んじゃう母だが、ほほえましいとか言ってる場合じゃなくなってきたわ。

ミラ様、意識改革なるか!? 三人目来たらそれどころじゃないぞ。

 

Nina Grows Up (And Mila…)

So I’ve totally underestimated pregnancy since my first two pregnancies were so easy.  This pregnancy has been kicking my butt.  First trimester sucked, with second trimester came the swelling and crazy weight gain…It’s a normal pregnancy, I just didn’t have it this bad the first two times.

Basically, I waddle around like an obese penguin, or hamster walking on its hind legs. Really, not feeling that great at the moment.

With my trusty helper away for two weeks, I suffered.

Who steps up? My big girl Nina.

To the extent that without being asked, she’ll take her plates into the kitchen and do the dishes herself.  I was getting teary and she throws down another bomb.

“Auntie Jane always does the dishes to help mommy, but she’s not here so I clean the dishes for you mommy because Di Di (little brother) eats all your food and takes your energy”

I’m gonna go run into my room and cry….

Later that night, I put the kids to bed and I’m sitting in the living room, I hear sobbing.

“Nina? What are you crying about in the dark?”

“I did everything by myself… I put the toys away, I cleaned, I ate all my dinner….”

Reading between the lines. (MILA doesn’t do anything and doesn’t get in trouble)

It’s true.  Mila does the absolute minimum of what she should do and gets away with it ‘cause the energy it takes her to do the same amount is just not there.

She conveniently tucks herself away when she doesn’t feel like doing something and avoids the line of fire.  As try as I may not to stereotype, she’s the princess second child.  When Nina did the dishes, as Nina finished up and was feeling so proud (and with me praising her like I’ve gone mental…I almost did) Mila walked over, tossed in her used bowl and walked away.

I knew that Nina teared up and I had scolded Mila, but clearly not to Nina’s satisfaction.

The better Nina behaves, she feels like she’s being cheated.  I get it, I’m just not sure what to do about it.  All I can do is praise her and give her extra something.

Now what to do with that little princess…..wait til little bro arrives Mila….just you wait….

Yeah, that’s Mila behind Nina, throwing in her plate… image1 (5)

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